Thursday, January 12, 2012

SCARED ABOUT MY LIFE Pleeeeeease help?

Please please help me, but no judgement, i'm in a delicate and vulnerale state. I'm a 34yr old female - no siblings. I was raised by a seriously mentally ill mother and an absent fathter. I love them both, have no anger toward them, and only want whats best for them. Anyway, i've had the worst two years of my life. My partner and I moved as i wanted to be closer to my parents. We moved to 2hrs drive from them to a smaller city. My partner, hes 51 and has worked all his life in a professional capacity, an engineer. As i wanted to move here ( to please my parents), he gave up his job and took another one here, and I got a job i detested where i was bullied and the people and work was horrible. Meanwhile my mother got very serioulsly mentally ill and it was a horrendous time, she was volatile, out in society and her psyh team useless. I 've been doing battle wtih them for the whole two yrs. Meanwhile my father got cardiac illness from stress of mum. He will not look after her in her own house, only in his own house as his farm is bigger. she wont live at his house adn he wont do any repairs on it. Shes huge stress on him and hes not able for it. So hes been hospitalised alot this past two yrs - stress from mum. Shes highly abusive. I love them both but they do not agree with my choice of partner although he gives me happiness. They think i should be married to a farmer now near them and have kids and be able to be at their beck and call. I do love them but i lived near them before and my life was hell. They wouldnt leave me alone for 20 mins i.e my mum. Anyway mum is now in a nursing home. Dad is not happy about it. He says i should live nearby. My partner does not want to stay out of work and is looking at emigrating. My parents will be very upset if i go with him. Mean while i've contacted a therapist i've known from when i was a teenager. She done a questionnaire and found i've got a severe depression. My gp has perscribed prozac adn zanax. I used to be a strong person. I'm just so torn between everyone. I hate being on meds but am just so stressed. My therapist mean while told me to keep in touch by phone and not to be spending money on therapy sessions as my money is running out. Now i feel rejected by her. although shes told me lots of times that im 'special' to her and she seems to care. Can someone pleaes give me comforting advice. Am i wrong to leave my parents? I dont want to make them unhappy but they believe 100% its my place to care for them yet i cannot live near them, it would mean giving up my life. Mum throws tantrums if left alone 20 mins and is higly manipulative.

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